From Yang Wan-li: The feeling passes and I laugh to myself.
From Anne Carson i learned to overcome unwanted loves:
how Sappho feigned extasis to escape jealousy, placing herself outside of love & desire, so as to watch her longing despair & then die;
how Marguerite Porete heard God ask her to love him instead of another, then asking: how would i fare if i knew that he preferred me to love another more than himself? … if he should love another more than me? … if he preferred another to love me more than he…?
how Simone Weil set about decreating herself to extract that selfish link to her own soul in every love.